This can be a touchy topic for some because some people hate their in laws, and some love them. I am just blessed that I love mine. And despite the negative feeling you may have about them, they STILL are your in laws and it's best that you let your wife spend time with the family she loves.
Yes you may say that you are your wife's new family and that you are now the priority but you also have to remember that you don't throw away "respect" to the in laws once you marry their child/sister/etc. Regardless of how you feel, you should still respect them and give them honor for who they are in the life of your spouse. Remember that they sacrificed a LOT just to bring up a child as great as the one you married and for that you SHOULD BE THANKFUL!
Always make it a point to pay them a visit to show them honor. It may not be a trip to the park but it's a trip your wife may want to take and you should be there by her side as she does.
You may say that it's easy for me to say that because I love my in laws (and I do!). But don't look at it like there's a choice! There isn't! Giving them honor is part of the package when you married their child so you better man up and perhaps take that extra step to get closer to them or to show them something great they can see in you if there's some tension.
I know someone who has to make up stories just to sneak out of the house to visit the parents because their spouse doesn't want to visit them and I think that's really sad when the very person whom you expect to be "THE" family to you would try to keep you away from the family who brought you up :(
So if you're still hesitant, take a leap. It's fun. You don't need to go there bringing great gifts. Just "BE" there and it can be a start of something fresh!
Cy
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